- Mama of Two Boisterous Beauties
- Psychologist and Careers Counsellor
- Master Multitasker
- Tattoo Designer and Colour Coordinator
- Household Handywoman
- Tech Tinker-er
- Truth Teller
- Recovering Control Freak
Throughout most of my school years I was hell bent on becoming either a painter, a tattooist or a hairdresser. Back then I was drawing all over canvases and myself, and chopping lopsided creations in my own and my friends’ hair – much to my parent’s dismay. I was obsessed with visual and independent expression, and confess that I still obsess over new tattoo ideas and hairstyles thanks to Pinterest and Instagram.
Instead of following my artistic fantasies I decided to study psychology, based on my frequent selection by others as negotiator and counsellor for oh so many a high school spat between hormonal teenage girls. Somehow I had a knack for listening and a good intuition of others. Who knew! After completing my Masters degree, I started off as a careers counsellor, then shifted into organizational psychology based roles, where I spent much time assessing, coaching, facilitating, and providing feedback to professionals on their performance, their career choices and skills development. Somewhere along this path, I managed to snag myself a lovely younger man, who had a dimple in his cheek, a razor sharp wit, and a wicked sense of humour that made me cry with laughter. I was sold.
Hubs and I had our babies in 2012 and 2014 – two gorgeous girls who make us laugh, cry, grit our teeth with frustration, and love like we never have before. I yearned for kids for a long time and thankfully I got what I wished for plus oh so much more personality and spirit. But OMFG was I ill-equipped and shocked to the core at how hard, exhausting and relentless this new parenting gig was and still is!
I am no Stepford wife nor perfect mum. I struggle with the daily juggle and mummy guilt like the rest of us. Some days I’m a zen tantrum taming mama. Some days I am short fused fire breathing dragon mama. Other days I am playful silly mama or simply cuddly couch potato knackered mama (thanks Play School!). So many new versions of me have come into play as a parent. What an adventure it is!
I am often brutally honest about what mothering and parenting is really like and I am unashamed about telling it like it is – often mixed with a bucket load of swear words (which is a great release!), and a good dose of good old humour. So I get a real kick when I am able to help other fellow parents feel comfortable enough to share and process their vulnerabilities and raw experiences. I really want other new parents to find their voice, a sense of connection, and to feel truly supported. I am also passionate about helping mums find their way in the working world, and love the challenge of exploring new job options and writing the perfect resume with clients. On a far less deep and meaningful note, I also love a good fart joke to lighten the mood.
Milo – on everything (hubby often asks if I’d like “more cereal with my milo?”)
Scrolling through Pinterest for visual inspiration
When I was 5yrs old I wanted to be a nurse because the boy I loved wanted to be a Doctor. Drama and acting was also a huge love of mine, and I was a keen stage performer throughout highschool and my university days. I wanted my life to be more than just a show, I wanted to connect with and assist people and have always had a fascination in human behavior, sociology and psychology. I studied a Bachelor of Social Work at UNSW and loved it. My first student placement was at The Royal Hospital for Women and it was there, all those moons ago, that my desire to work with families in the perinatal period was ignited.
I moved to London for a change of scene and to study a dream Masters Degree in Drama & Movement Therapy…combining two of my big loves…drama and therapy. Achieved my masters and found my man. In 2011 we got hitched on the sand of Koh Samui Thailand with 53 of our closest family and friends (highlight of my life!). We then moved back to Sydney where set up my private therapeutic practice and started the next chapter of our lives together.
Our darling daughter was born in November 2014 and she is the most delicious heart exploding… and most challenging thing that has ever happened to us.
I birthed a child, and was reborn a mother. The juxtaposition…The bliss, and the tragedy. The peace and the terror. That pendulum would swing. I was overjoyed whilst also deep in grief of the life and person I once knew. Any form of the ego I once knew had been murdered by this tiny human who spun my world out of control. I met my ‘shadow’, bared my soul, gave everything I had, and searched hard and deep for a torch in amongst the darkness of it all.
I kept asking myself, “Why is this sooo hard?” Society had groomed me to think I could be in control. But the biggest lesson I learnt in it all was the “Letting Go”.
I felt so lucky to have supportive and loving friends and family, and particularly my private midwife was a lifeline at this time. But the age old concept of the village was something I craved. I just didn’t want to do this whole parenting thing alone…and a lot of time, I really did feel lonely.
Truth, sharing, being vulnerable, creating and strengthening relationships and connecting with others…and having a laugh. This is what life is about… this is the “guts”, the core of it all.
Game Of Thrones (Its like family dynamics on steroids!)
Having a good old swear
Facebook….(yep I’m addicted)
Staying up late for some “me time”